How to Build Your Boudoir: Step 2

Welcome back.  In  How to Build Your Boudoir – Step 1 you chose your space, made room for your special things and measured the space so you don’t overfill it or buy something that won’t fit.  Next let’s talk about how to actually put together your unique design.

Start by going hunting through your own home.  Take a walk through your house collecting those things you own that give you a decadent feeling.  Don’t worry about what they are or if they will work with your finished design.  Look for things like that little clock you picked up at the garage sale across the street just because you loved it or the glass figurine someone gave you that always made you feel special, that unusual piece of your grandmother’s jewelry and your favorite throw pillow.  Come on, you get the idea, now go collect them.

Some of Red's favorite things used to design her boudoir space.

Some of Red’s favorite things used to design her personal boudoir space.

So how did you do?  Are you already feeling a bit glamorous surrounded by your favorite things?  Take a look at them.  Is there a common theme, color, or idea?  Is there one item that speaks to you more than the others?  Is there a color you absolutely love more than the others mixed in there?  Now write down the words that come to mind when you look at your things.  Just simple words.  For example with my collection you see here my words are: blue, gold, cats, pigs, earth, stone, classic, & comfortable.  You can use those words to choose your theme and color scheme.  My design would include the three words, blue, cats & stone.  But don’t stop there with your design.  Here comes the fun part.

Grab yourself a beverage.  Yep, a beverage, a glass of wine, a cup of tea, whatever it is that helps you relax and makes you comfortable.  Open another tab in your browser and search for more ideas.  Look at bathroom and bedroom designs with your color or style or theme.  Create a Pinterest board or a word file or just pin your favorite images to your desktop.  Take it all in.  Are you having a hard time deciding where to start?  Take a look at the Bad Wolf Boudoir Pinterest board I created to help inspire you, and while you’re doing that I’ll prepare Part 3.

How to Build Your Boudoir: Step 1

Do you have a space in your home that is all your own?  A place where you feel warm and welcome and beautiful?  An intimate space where you can focus on yourself and prepare yourself for the world?  If not, let’s talk about how simple it can be to create this kind of space for you.  And believe me; you will love having it once it’s done.

A ladies boudoir was historically a private suite used for bathing and dressing.  An intimate space where she could take a moment to focus on herself in an environment designed to make her feel special.  So let’s talk about how to begin designing this space for you.

The first step would be to choose your space.  Ideally it would be a separate room with private bathroom access but since that is not always possible now a days, take a new look at the arrangement of your bedroom and see if you can free up a corner or even reevaluate weather you really need all that stuff you have shoved into the second walk in closet that you dare not venture into.

Measure Your SpaceNow grab a measuring tape.  Have you ever used one?  Here’s a great how to guide on wiki how.

Draw a quick layout of the space and write in the measurements for each line of available space you have.  “Measure twice cut once.”  Always double check your measurements.  Better to take an extra couple minutes measuring than to not be able to fit all your stuff in your new space.  Now go clear out the space, get your measurements and check back in with me soon when we’ll talk about the next step in designing this space just for you in How to Build Your Boudoir – Step 2.

Five Boudoir Photo Props You Already Own

Most people believe that a boudoir photo session means you will only need to bring lingerie or your bare skin, but the truth is you can include anything that makes you feel sexy.  Boudoir photography is about giving you a place where you feel welcome, beautiful, accepted, able to be yourself, love yourself and above all have some fun.  Here are a few things you already own that you might consider bringing for your session with us.

  • Shoes

Shoes“Give a girl the right shoes and she can conquer the world.” -Marilyn Monroe

Follow Marilyn’s advice and bring shoes that make you feel powerful, happy and playful.  Cowboy boots, Roman sandals or those five inch stilettos could help define your personal style and set the mood for some really fun photos.  If you’d like some thoughts on what he might like check out this blog by Beverly Feldman Shoes.



  • Fabric


What do you own that makes you feel happy every time you touch it?  How about an extra fluffy towel, satin sheet, fuzzy blanket or silky curtain?  Bring it!  We can drape you in whatever makes you feel most luxurious and capture an image of the way these fabrics make you feel.




  • Something That Defines You

What Defines You

Whether you are participating in the photo session for yourself or your partner, creating an image that defines who you are is important.  Be sure to bring that special something that makes you who you are.  Do you play an instrument?  What’s your favorite book?  Do you dabble in photography or cook gourmet meals?  Do you play a sport? You could even bring a favorite wine glass, coffee cup or tea set.  If it’s important to you we will create a beautiful image with it.



  • Accessories


To quote women’s sportswear fashion designer Michale Kors “I’ve always thought of accessories as the exclamation point of a woman’s outfit” and that is just as true for boudoir.  Glasses, stockings, gloves, hats, scarves, jewelry, anything you would wear to accessorize your everyday wear works well to bump up the glamor in a boudoir photo.




  • Something of His


Believe it or not, men love seeing you in their clothes.  I’m sure we could spend hours debating the subject but trust us, bring his sports jersey, dress shirt, boxers, tie or anything else of his you love wearing and we’ll help create an image that he will go nuts for.  And don’t forget to add a dash of his cologne to the item of clothing to make you feel all warm and cozy while wearing it.


Yes ladies, it’s that easy to find a few things to bring to your photo session that will make your images extra special.  Let us know what you plan to bring ahead of time and we can design some shots around what’s most special to you.  We’re looking forward to it!

Red’s Boudoir

“Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.” ~ Coco Chanel

Beginning Bad Wolf Boudoir, James and I researched quite a bit into “the boudoir”.  What is it?  Where did it come from?  What is the definition?  From where was it inspired?  And what I have found is that it all comes down to one simple idea.  The Boudoir is a woman’s intimate space.  A space where she feels welcome, beautiful, accepted, able to be herself and love herself, care for herself and prepare herself for the world.

Although many already know my story I felt it was important to share this with you.  I have always identified with the Phoenix, that beautiful mystical creature with the ability to live forever, which occasionally dies in a fiery inferno to be born again into a new life.  I came from a place where I never felt as though I was good enough.  I don’t blame my parents or society for this feeling.  I realize it was a strength I needed to find on my own.  But during my past lives I have lived with these feelings on many different levels.

Andrea Boudoir Photo

Andrea’s first boudoir session with her then-boyfriend (now husband and partner) James

As a child my mother was always working, or going to school.  She was a single mom and my father never showed much interest in me.  So for much of my life I was left alone.  One of the original latch-key kids of the late 70’s I spent my time looking for acceptance, not from my parents, but from the children I was left to spend my time with every day after school.  I found I was much more likely to be accepted if I looked a certain way or acted a certain way and it didn’t take long for me to develop all the insecurities an adolescent girl could possibly have.  I found that boys would happily adore me if I spent my time boosting their egos and belittling myself in order to make them feel stronger and manlier.

It wasn’t long, at age 15 in fact, when I would find the first man that would give me a promise of love and affection and caring provided I stayed in my place and did as I was told.  I tried, I really tried.  I wanted to do the right things.  I wanted to be the perfect wife.  I wanted to have a home and a family.  (The things I had always desired most as a child,) but there was something lacking.  I didn’t know it at the time but what was lacking was me.  I gave birth to two beautiful boys and although they were more than I ever could have asked for I still felt as though I wasn’t enough.  I felt as though I could never be the mother they needed nor could I be the wife my husband desired.  The obedient woman that did whatever my husband (and his parents) felt I should do. That marriage ended, as you might have guessed, in a fiery blaze.  I left the home, and the state where we had established our family and returned to my mother’s home.  (Okay, maybe not the best choice but I had nowhere else to go.)  I was still young at age 19 and had next to no experience in the real world.

After my return I began working as a waitress and found myself involved with a man who would become the person I spent the next 15 years of my life with.  I have accepted him for what he was yet I realize now that he was not the best person I could have chosen for myself.  I was still searching for that woman inside the little girl that could feel love and acceptance without the childlike desire to be exactly what he wanted.  But that is exactly what I became.  Instead of growing into the person I was designed to be I molded myself into the person he wanted/needed me to be. And I had another child. (Yeah, that was going to work out well.)  So again, I found my life going down in flames.

And then, something amazing happened.  I found a place.  I started working with a volunteer organization.  My youngest son and I discovered a place where we could be creative and learn and make friends and have fun.  It was then that I started to come into myself.  It was then that I began to step outside of my own comfort zone and grow.  Not because I had found some amazing amount of self-worth, but because I began to see myself through other people’s eyes.  People who believed I was fun, and creative, and talented, and inventive, and organized, and all the things I had always wanted to be but had never been able to see in myself due to the self-defeating situations I had put myself in.  Wonderful things happened in this place, things made of fantasy and mystery.  I found a confidence I never imagined.  I could be creative and goofy without worrying about how other people saw me.  I could allow myself to be bossy and frustrated and obsessed and the people around me accepted me as I was. I found my prince charming (or wolf charming if you prefer,) and in this new found woman that I had become in this place, this Boudoir, and I had found my true intimate self. Finally I was the woman I had hoped to find.

The first time James photographed me I came away from the shoot with two thoughts.  First, that he was incredibly professional (and I was his girlfriend) working hard to compose the image properly and capture the moment perfectly.  Second, I felt a freedom I didn’t know was possible.  I stepped outside my comfort zone yet again, saw myself through his eyes, and felt strong and sexy and beautiful and empowered and not just because he was capturing beautiful images of me but because that was me, my personality coming through in the photos. And this is what James and I strive to do through his photography.  To help you find that place where you feel welcome and accepted, and loved and beautiful.  The place that is Your Boudoir.